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- dc,
- grad school,
- hcgs,
- health,
- jobbing,
- life warp,
- lj,
- lj friends,
- lj friends cut,
- minimalism,
- public,
- writing
May You Grow
I was thinking that if ~1 in 50 people are psychopaths does that mean we are evolving to be less emotional? Are we the proto emotionless aliens who invade Earth in sci-fi novels? Or are we evolving to be more emotional? Or am I reading too much into this? PS this was one of those thoughts I had as I was falling asleep and sounded way more profound at the time than it does now.
May Life Warp Goals
HCGS, DC, & Long-Distance > Short-Distance
Nathan is graduating with his M.S. in Print Media on May 23. He defends his thesis on May 15. I am so proud of him for getting his shit done. On top of that, he's wrangled a ~trial period~ at that start-up 3D printer outside of DC for the month of May--which means he has to be in DC Mon-Wed and in Rochester on Thursday to T.A. his advisor's class lab. It's going to be a busy month for him, but it's only a month. And since he doesn't have to T.A. next Thursday (see below), he's staying through, and won't have to travel back next Wednesday night. They're only paying him intern wages to do this, which sucks, and if they keep him on, the position tops out at $56,000, which also sucks, but as I told him, any job is better than no job, and he still has applications in with the Fed/Bureau of Printing and Engraving.
He also has an interview next Thursday with another printer in the District. Hopefully that would pay more. Hopefully he will have two great offers to choose from.
So on one hand, I'm really pleased that my long distance relationship is coming to a close. On the other, I'm getting pre-annoyed that I'm going to have to share my living space for most of May.
**Make room to grow**
I also want to take this opportunity to ~spring clean~ my relationships. I know that I've been a not-great LJ friend in the past year, and I would like to change that, but a 150 person friendslist (and a lot of side projects) makes that difficult and I've been, frankly, overwhelmed by a lot of posts on my feed - some from people I interact with regularly, and some from those I only spoke to once, at friending - and plenty in between. I want to focus on the relationships that matter, with the people who genuinely want to be my friend and have me in their life, in whatever way LJ allows for it.
So I would like to take this opportunity to offer any of you who've been "holding on" because it would be "weird" to defriend me, the opportunity to defriend with no hard feelings. I would love a note to say goodbye (and we can connect in other places like Facebook or Instagram or Goodreads if you still want to stay in touch but are tired of my entries) but it's not necessary. You can make a quiet exit if you like.
I plan to stay in fandom and I plan to continue posting about my life in general, if that helps you decide.
* I don't have immediate plans to do a friends-cut myself, mostly because I don't have the time to go through it right now, but if in the future I do so, you can also feel free to let me know here or privately if you'd really like to stay in that event. No need to comment to stay though; I have no intention of ever cutting people I interact with.
May Life Warp Goals
- Sleep Well, Sleep Enough. This one is stolen from blithelybonny and desperately needed. While I was in Baltimore, I think I got the best sleep I've had in 5 years. I went to sleep around 11:45 and woke up without an alarm at 7:15. This is outstanding. I felt so refreshed all day while I was away. Even my earache and the tension in my neck and shoulders went away. Then I came home and I feel just as crummy as before. I don't really know what the factors are. I think the cats are one (noise, movement, fur) and I think my basement apartment is another (no morning light in my bedroom, unlike the hotel, where it was bright and sunny). But it did tell me one thing: 7.5 hours is my ~ideal sleep~ time. Now I just have to work on sleeping well at home.
- Fiction, goddamnit. I had a lot on my plate last month, and as life is life, this month will not be so different. I tried to knock the ~easy~ tasks out of the way first, which left most of my writing to the beginning and ending of April, so I didn't have time to finish what I started. I did at least use the time mentally productively, in that I've thought about my writing a lot in the last month. I know what I want to focus on right now, and that helps. This month, I want to focus on my Draco/Hermione and my NewOrleansOrigific.
HCGS, DC, & Long-Distance > Short-Distance
Nathan is graduating with his M.S. in Print Media on May 23. He defends his thesis on May 15. I am so proud of him for getting his shit done. On top of that, he's wrangled a ~trial period~ at that start-up 3D printer outside of DC for the month of May--which means he has to be in DC Mon-Wed and in Rochester on Thursday to T.A. his advisor's class lab. It's going to be a busy month for him, but it's only a month. And since he doesn't have to T.A. next Thursday (see below), he's staying through, and won't have to travel back next Wednesday night. They're only paying him intern wages to do this, which sucks, and if they keep him on, the position tops out at $56,000, which also sucks, but as I told him, any job is better than no job, and he still has applications in with the Fed/Bureau of Printing and Engraving.
He also has an interview next Thursday with another printer in the District. Hopefully that would pay more. Hopefully he will have two great offers to choose from.
So on one hand, I'm really pleased that my long distance relationship is coming to a close. On the other, I'm getting pre-annoyed that I'm going to have to share my living space for most of May.
**Make room to grow**
I also want to take this opportunity to ~spring clean~ my relationships. I know that I've been a not-great LJ friend in the past year, and I would like to change that, but a 150 person friendslist (and a lot of side projects) makes that difficult and I've been, frankly, overwhelmed by a lot of posts on my feed - some from people I interact with regularly, and some from those I only spoke to once, at friending - and plenty in between. I want to focus on the relationships that matter, with the people who genuinely want to be my friend and have me in their life, in whatever way LJ allows for it.
So I would like to take this opportunity to offer any of you who've been "holding on" because it would be "weird" to defriend me, the opportunity to defriend with no hard feelings. I would love a note to say goodbye (and we can connect in other places like Facebook or Instagram or Goodreads if you still want to stay in touch but are tired of my entries) but it's not necessary. You can make a quiet exit if you like.
I plan to stay in fandom and I plan to continue posting about my life in general, if that helps you decide.
* I don't have immediate plans to do a friends-cut myself, mostly because I don't have the time to go through it right now, but if in the future I do so, you can also feel free to let me know here or privately if you'd really like to stay in that event. No need to comment to stay though; I have no intention of ever cutting people I interact with.
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That's a lot of sleep. It sounds amazing, frankly.
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*looks down* Do you have a separate yoga etc wardrobe that you're not counting in your 30 pieces? Also... I filled out the writing group google sheet! But it looks like your writing group has already made plans, etc, so don't feel obliged to loop me in. This way I can procrastinate some more on writing (: Otoh, if it's easy to add more people, I would still be super down!
Also, you got featured in crack_broom recently, btw! Since you have 150 friends you might have missed that... meanwhile I have like 10 lj friends lol.
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I do! I only shared my going-out/working clothes. I have t-shirts/leggings for sleeping in and leggings/tanks for yoga.
Ohhhh I didn't see that you'd filled in the sheet! Would you like to join now or wait? We are officially starting on Monday, but the first person getting critiqued sent out her pages today (early because we agreed she could send 40 this time).
I didn't! I'll go look!
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hmm what is the difference between joining now and waiting?/what is the agreed upon method of doing things? what if it's my turn to get critiqued and i don't have new material :X
and yahh i think it's your collab w someone else? super excite!
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We were going to start with 2 weeks per person and rotate through until we've each had a turn, and then we were going to go to one month per. I suppose we'd just skip you. :P
oooh that one. about 50% hated. I just looked - really surprised they didn't say anything about the warnings, lol.
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i'm in, i'm in! slot me in after everyone else please lol
awww. at least now you know it is also loved :P
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okay let me add you to the email.
I just saw that you made comments on my doc!
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It is exciting to see that you are so happy with Nathan. I hope it works out on the jobfront for him :)
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56k is totally decent here, too, for most areas. This city is just so expensive to live in that it's not a livable wage when you also have to pay $1000 or more per month in rent and $500 or more per month in student loans. I make $63,000 and my take home each month is only about $3000, $1200 of which goes to rent. So $56,000 is kind of terrifyingly little in this area.
I hope so too! And I like him! Thank you!
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I think every treat has a function, more or less: I guess a society needs soft people, harder people, people who cannot harm a single being, and people who can do that without blinking. But it's the development and organisation of society deciding what sort of people are needed within this time and place.
I think there's also a place for very organised people, and for impulsive people who don't really think things through or are wonderful at thinking up ideas, and less wonderful at actually executing those ideas. But I think today there's a shift going on, where being organised is much more valued, showing in the appreciation we have for university certificates, for people who can sit and type for hours on end in order to finish their thesis, or doing a PhD. An impulsive person who cannot sit still is definitely not the same as a psychopath, but it is becoming a more unwanted variation than it used to be, it seems to me.
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These things do occupy my thoughts sometimes. I like to think of different personality traits and structures as a Gausse curve, shifting over time to the left or right as society needs or demands. And I always like discussing these things with other people, with different thoughts or new interesting angles on this topic.
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Best of luck on your goals this month!
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I've grown so accustomed to being able to go to the bathroom with the door open whenever I want to, you know?
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Also, congrats on getting your seasonal wardrobe down. I must thank you for telling me about liketwice! I got three gorgeous and perfectly fitting silk shirts from there and I'm stoked to replace some older tops that no longer fit.
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And you're welcome! I am glad you signed up. I didn't get a notice that you'd used my referral link. Did you get your $10 off?
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I'm really stoked that I've gotten another person on the online thrift store thing. I think it's so cool.
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Best of luck to HCGS on his thesis! I think it's wonderful that you're happy being in a relationship with him :)
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I will tell him you said good luck!
Hey, did y'all receive your package? Everything okay with it?
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Great! :D
Oh we did! Everything's perfect. Thank you so much! Sorry I didn't say anything sooner.
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